Category: narcissist

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Psychological Abuse: Gaslighting, Reactive Abuse, and More

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Many people walk around psychologically abused, and they don't even know it's happening. Tactics such as gaslighting and reactive abuse are just some of the weapons used against survivors to keep them confused and blaming themselves. Read on to learn more about this and how I took back my life from it.

Tim’s Take on a Police Officer’s Regret

On By Tim RutherfordIn blog, christian, domestic violence, God, Jesus, marriage, mental health, narcissist, relationships, self worth, self-esteem, survivor, toxic, trauma, trauma bond, trauma recovery, Uncategorized2 Comments

As a former police officer, Tim saw domestic violence cases daily, but this one sticks out more than any other. He only wishes he had done one other thing. Read on to hear more from Tim.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to How the Church’s Silence Hurts the Divorced/Remarried Christian

On By Dana RutherfordIn blog, christian, dating, domestic violence, God, healthy, husband, infidelity, marriage, mental health, narcissist, relationships, self worth, self-esteem, sex, survivor, toxic, trauma, trauma bond, trauma recovery, Uncategorized, wifeLeave a comment

Remarriage and divorce are so common in the church yet not talked about often. In fact, a fear of advocating for divorce is hurting many who need encouragement. But what about abuse and the lack of it being brought up as grounds for divorce? Could that silence be INCREASING the divorce and abuse rates in the church? This is a must-read challenge to the church on behalf of a divorced and remarried survivor of domestic violence.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Coparenting with a Narcissist

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Abuse can continue when the victims leave. In my case of coparenting with a narcissist, it magnified, and the weapons were our children. This is a must-read if you or someone you know is coparenting with an abuser.