Romance is much more than being swept away, having sex, or a cheesy Hollywood movie. It's also more than the manipulative "honeymoon stage" of the abuse cycle. You CAN have romance after wreckage (including sex and fancy dates), and this is what it looks like in real life.
The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Dating After Divorce
"Dating after divorce, especially if the prior relationship was toxic, can be challenging. You have been starved of genuine love and attention for so long that you almost crave it. On the flip side, you may be so extremely sensitive to red flags that you are almost looking for any reason to run because you never want to endure what you survived again. So, how do you find a balance?"
The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Psychological Abuse: Gaslighting, Reactive Abuse, and More
Many people walk around psychologically abused, and they don't even know it's happening. Tactics such as gaslighting and reactive abuse are just some of the weapons used against survivors to keep them confused and blaming themselves. Read on to learn more about this and how I took back my life from it.
Tim’s Take on the Single Mom Stigma
When a person on social media had "keyboard courage" to say that Tim was weak and foolish to marry a single mom who "just wanted a baby daddy," it made him reflect on the stigma that single moms endure. It also brought out the fact that being a father figure can be looked at as "weak" in some eyes. Read on for his take on this topic.
Tim’s Take on a Police Officer’s Regret
As a former police officer, Tim saw domestic violence cases daily, but this one sticks out more than any other. He only wishes he had done one other thing. Read on to hear more from Tim.
The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to How the Church’s Silence Hurts the Divorced/Remarried Christian
Remarriage and divorce are so common in the church yet not talked about often. In fact, a fear of advocating for divorce is hurting many who need encouragement. But what about abuse and the lack of it being brought up as grounds for divorce? Could that silence be INCREASING the divorce and abuse rates in the church? This is a must-read challenge to the church on behalf of a divorced and remarried survivor of domestic violence.
The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Coparenting with a Narcissist
Abuse can continue when the victims leave. In my case of coparenting with a narcissist, it magnified, and the weapons were our children. This is a must-read if you or someone you know is coparenting with an abuser.
The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Dirty Love￼
Love can get a little messy, but sometimes, it gets downright dirty. Read on to find out how Satan can use our relationships to pervert what God intended love to be in our lives.
The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Sex vs Intimacy: Ditching Trauma Bonding for True Connection
Anyone can have sex, but not everyone will experience intimacy. For some like me, toxic trauma bonding impersonated for a long time. But what if I told you that there's nothing sexier than true intimacy? Read on to see how to see what I mean.
The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Parenting with a Mental Illness
I used to cry many days that my mental health conditions were making me a "bad parent." God showed me that he created every part of me, including my mind. If you are parenting with a mental illness, this blog is for you.