The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to the Ugly Side of Trauma: How a Scary Moment Took Me Back

Just a few weeks ago, I experienced something so scary that it sent me back in my trauma recovery. Suddenly, feelings of shame and violation have come flooding back. This is trauma recovery: good, bad, and ugly.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to the Crazy Gift of Grief

Just this past month, I was hit hard with feelings of sadness and regret during a time that should have been the happiest of my life after graduating college. There is no playbook when it comes to grief, and I realized at 36 years old, my childhood trauma needed some nurturing.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Romance After Wreckage

Romance is much more than being swept away, having sex, or a cheesy Hollywood movie. It's also more than the manipulative "honeymoon stage" of the abuse cycle. You CAN have romance after wreckage (including sex and fancy dates), and this is what it looks like in real life.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Dating After Divorce

"Dating after divorce, especially if the prior relationship was toxic, can be challenging. You have been starved of genuine love and attention for so long that you almost crave it. On the flip side, you may be so extremely sensitive to red flags that you are almost looking for any reason to run because you never want to endure what you survived again. So, how do you find a balance?"

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Psychological Abuse: Gaslighting, Reactive Abuse, and More

Many people walk around psychologically abused, and they don't even know it's happening. Tactics such as gaslighting and reactive abuse are just some of the weapons used against survivors to keep them confused and blaming themselves. Read on to learn more about this and how I took back my life from it.