The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to the Ugly Side of Trauma: How a Scary Moment Took Me Back

Just a few weeks ago, I experienced something so scary that it sent me back in my trauma recovery. Suddenly, feelings of shame and violation have come flooding back. This is trauma recovery: good, bad, and ugly.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to the Crazy Gift of Grief

Just this past month, I was hit hard with feelings of sadness and regret during a time that should have been the happiest of my life after graduating college. There is no playbook when it comes to grief, and I realized at 36 years old, my childhood trauma needed some nurturing.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Romance After Wreckage

Romance is much more than being swept away, having sex, or a cheesy Hollywood movie. It's also more than the manipulative "honeymoon stage" of the abuse cycle. You CAN have romance after wreckage (including sex and fancy dates), and this is what it looks like in real life.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Psychological Abuse: Gaslighting, Reactive Abuse, and More

Many people walk around psychologically abused, and they don't even know it's happening. Tactics such as gaslighting and reactive abuse are just some of the weapons used against survivors to keep them confused and blaming themselves. Read on to learn more about this and how I took back my life from it.

The Trauma Survivor’s Guide to Suicidal Thoughts: How Mental Health Issues Can’t Just Be “Prayed Away”

*TRIGGER WARNING* I had dealt with suicidal thoughts off and on my entire life. I had no idea that getting the help I needed could intensify that in the beginning of my trauma recovery. As much as I believe in the power of prayer, I needed more help. Read on to hear more about my story with suicidal thoughts.

Tim’s Take on the Single Mom Stigma

When a person on social media had "keyboard courage" to say that Tim was weak and foolish to marry a single mom who "just wanted a baby daddy," it made him reflect on the stigma that single moms endure. It also brought out the fact that being a father figure can be looked at as "weak" in some eyes. Read on for his take on this topic.